This weekend has flown by, and a big part of my not posting has been the amount of activity. It is not that I cannot do a lot or handle a lot, it’s that when a lot of big things happen all at once I often find myself lost in the details……such has been the case this weekend.

We began the weekend with a trip to Goshen, Indiana to visit my grandma. She just turned 93 in April and we had not seen her since before lacrosse season started. I was looking forward to our trip. I was driving us through the country to get there. It was a wonderful drive and very relaxing.

Unfortunately, just south of Wabash, Ben coughed and then choked and then threw up all over himself (and his only outfit). He wasn’t sick, he just gagged. But what was up till then a pleasant trip turned sour, as did the smell of the car. Soon we were all out of the car, stripping him down, and trying to clean up the best we could. The 20 minute trip to the Wal-Mart seemed endless, but we made it, and got him a new outfit, lots of Febreze, and continued on. The car never did smell comfortable, but we got there, and had a great time with my grandma. It was a blast.

From there we headed towards Muncie, where my cousin Chrissy had just graduated from high school. It was a great time in Muncie. My other two cousins had brand new baby girls there and we enjoyed ourselves a great deal.

The hardest part of the day was between Goshen and Muncie when I received a call from Ohio informing me that an old friend, Father Bill Knapp had died that morning. Bill and I both served as Rectors of the same Church, St. Andrew’s in Barberton, Ohio. I was there for 8 years, but he had been there for over 20. There had been a priest who served in between us too.

I knew that Bill was old, and that he had been in poor health, but it still was something that saddened me. Bill was one of the good guys, a real straight shooter, and a real inspiration to me. We both told jokes all the time, but his were always bad….they were groaners, and something I was sure was intentional. It was kind of his trademark. Heaven had to wait a long time for him, but he was worth it. I am just thankful he is finally reunited with his wife Mimi who he missed so much.

Yesterday, quite frankly I have little memory of at all, other than I know I worked in our churches in the north. Scotty went to the 500 with my dad, and I know he and I watched the replay when he got home (it’s coming back to me!)

And today, the rain prevented a trip to the zoo, though we did try. This afternoon the kids had a few friends over for a barbecue, but now they are heading to study since this will be their last week of school.

As for me, I am fried. I have been on overload, and for some reason just unable to catch up. I am still at it though, and with this blog out of the way I can sit back and try and relax. Let’s just pray my mind decides to show up here sometime soon.

I hope you had a great holiday weekend.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tom+

The back porch keeps getting warmer, much to my chagrin. I am not a big fan of the heat, but do enjoy a nice cool breeze as I am out here typing. Tonight I am doing double-duty. I am not only posting this blog entry, but I am also getting my sermon done for Sunday. With it being a holiday weekend, I want to be available as much as I can for my family.

Tonight it seems as if everyone has the same idea. The normally quiet back porch is filled with laughs and chatter from many of the other back yards near us. That’s a pretty wonderful sound…..people enjoying each other’s company. I just wish the neighbor across the field didn’t have that spotlight pointing right at my house!!

But all and all it has been a great night. Steph’s boyfriend was over for dinner, Ben played hard and then went to bed, Amanda and Scott went to the Wal-Mart to get a few things, and Steph is now in the living room playing her guitar. Oh no, I spoke too soon, everyone is now home and Steph is out on the porch (with the guitar and with Amanda) and the tranquillity factor is now down to zero. And my complaints have been met by deaf ears.

So sign off I must. Even the cat has had enough. I will still be available for them, but after the concert and the potting of plants that is accompanying it!! Off to my room to work on my sermon!

I hope you have had a blessed day!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tom+

Well in an effort to be responsible I made an appointment with my doctor this morning and went in, fully expecting him to dismiss my chest pains as “impatience” with waiting for a muscle problem to heal. Yep, it was for my sake and it was impatience because I have tried ice, rest, heat, Motrin, Naproxen, a plug in massage machine, and even the ever popular “Tiger Balm” that my wife hates but I love…it is not made from real tigers.

But with persistent pain I figured I would at least learn something. But when the physical exam (the pushing and the prodding) did not cause the pain, suddenly I found myself hooked up to an EKG machine and then an x-ray. Fortunately (really) I passed both and we were back to the muscle stuff…..but it was a hell of a detour!

My doctor is a great guy and just laughed that much of what happens to me is not textbook. For instance, a stroke after being on an apnea machine 4 months and losing 45 pounds with great blood pressure and in shape…..I am often a mystery! Today however I aced it all, and though I still have the pain, as of this point I have almost lived to 11 o’clock! I intend to see the morning too! I am just glad the nurse did not contort her face during the EKG or the tech did not scream when she read my ex-rays. I could use a break, and tonight at the end of the day I feel I have gotten one!

I am tired from the worries and scares of the last few years and I really want to get to where I feel comfortable. I am tired of feeling like a former athlete, and though I am almost 48, I will begin the journey of getting back to that (as much as a middle aged guy can) when I go to bed tonight. Time will tell, but one thing is for certain, I cannot stay where I am. Keep me in your prayers. This past year has been too scary to relive.

As my doctor says…it starts right now. And that it does!

Keep the faith my friends! I hope you have had a blessed day!

Tom+

Well the night is even better….66 degrees and a little breeze. I have no glass of wine, jug, keg, or anything else….just my writing partner Puddy out here on the porch. Unfortunately, my pain is still killing me, so tomorrow I will call my doctor. Advil, Naproxen, rest……nothing is working and I am miserable. Hopefully they will have the answers there.

Amanda went back to work today, much to my disappointment. She came home and laid down, because she was “seeing spots,” and that upset me a great deal. Migraines are serious business and she gets very severe ones. Maybe we can get a couples appointment for tomorrow! And of course I want to get my problems fixed before government takes over health care, after all I have seen “Logan’s Run,” and I believe I have a few more useful years in me.

But for now I will just end this entry and sit back and watch the stars. It is a beautiful night and a blessed one as well. God made a lot of marvelous things…..tonight I will just sit back and take them in!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Thanks for checking in!

Tom+

Amanda spent most of the day asleep, and we also had Ben here because our babysitter was under the weather too. It would have been fine had I been fine, but I apparently have pulled a muscle in my chest, so wrestling with a 23 month old is not a very effective way to avoid pain. I did wrestle him anyway mind you, but I was not nearly as successful as I had hoped to be.

But it is now just after 10pm and Ben is asleep. It hurts to lift the glass of wine the cat and I are having out on the porch (it’s actually just mine), and if my left arm were coordinated at all (remember my left elbow has been surgically rebuilt, and not to full function either) I would have tried it from that side. But wine is to drink, not to wear (some people should learn that) so I am toughing it out through the pain.

But the night is beautiful. It is about 60, there is a nice breeze, and if I turn off the ceiling fan I can hear Puddy eating the bug she caught a few minutes ago (I will leave it on). I just enjoy being out here. The Lord calls us to rest, and though I never can on Sundays because I am a priest, I take time here and there, like tonight out on the porch with the cat.

It looks like Amanda will be going back to work tomorrow and Ben back to the sitter. If I am able, I hope to get a few things done that I have had to put off taking care of them. If not I will take an extended rest. I am just happy to see Amanda feeling better. It worries me that she gets these headaches, and this past one scared me quite a bit. I just hope she never has one again!! Keep her in your prayers!

AND, on another note, Flo went home today from the hospital!!! Praise God!

Okay, enough for tonight. I am going to try and finish this glass with two hands!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless. Thanks for checking in!

Tom+

Today I spent a great deal of time in the ER with Amanda who got a major migraine headache while at work in Indianapolis this morning. I went to pick her up, and though we had an appointment for her at our doctor’s office, we were not even able to make it home. A stop at the Clarian North ER defined our day. But after a few IV meds, a CT scan, some shots, and even some morphine, Amanda was released for me to take home and put to bed.

I feel so badly for her when she gets these headaches. She is clearly miserable, and nothing ever helps. She has tried about every prophylactic migraine medicine in existence, yet none seems to help. I will say that today was her first ever shot of morphine, and unlike any other time, her pain level dropped considerably. She also ate before she went to bed here at the house which was different too. Normally she cannot eat, nor does she want anything to do with being awake. Today she was in the land of the living for a good while before heading to bed only semi-grouchy. I liked it. Though I have never had it before, they have my permission to shoot her up with it at every headache that comes her way. We are all happier when she is not miserable!!

Anyway, she is asleep and hopefully going to be fine. Ben and I went and got her meds at the pharmacy, so if she needs them they are here. Hopefully not though. Sleep should do her wonders.

Keep her in your prayers! We all appreciate it here in the Tirman home!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless! I am letting out the dogs and heading to bed myself!

Tom+

My plans to get to bed early tonight have been set aside! It is just before 11, and Ben and Amanda went to bed. Generally when Ben has to stay up late (tonight to attend a graduation open house) he generally outlasts his mom. Tonight that was the case. I made her get up from sleeping on the couch and Ben and I put her to bed. I then say, “okay, let’s go to YOUR BED,” which causes him to run to my bed and climb into my spot. The good news is that he goes to bed there quickly, the bad news is (for him) that he will be mowing and shoveling snow at a much younger age than Stephanie and Scott!

My youngest sister, Anna, graduates from Cathedral High School this year. Her open house was yesterday, and had our team not been in the final four, we would have been there. She is an amazing young woman, and will be heading to my Alma Mater Butler. My brother Michael (who I know as Mike but will call him anything he wants because he is about a foot taller than me) will be a Junior there as Anna starts. Fortunately for both of them, I in the great Tirman tradition, never set the bar too high there….unless consecutive semesters on “academic probation” counts. I will ask my dad, but I don’t think it does. It is just great to see them both there because it is such a great school.

Well I am off to bed before I turn into a pumpkin as m grandma would say. Puddy and I got to type this out on the porch, 45 degrees and all, but it does me good. I unwind here the best, and today has been too long! I needed it.

I hope your day was truly blessed! Goodnight my friends and God Bless!

Tom+

Well it is finally over. Our delay last night was just too much to overcome and it left our girls frustrated and flat today as we took the field against Culver. We had lost to Culver earlier in the year, and though we gave it our all, in the end the Eagles were victorious. They went on later in the day to beat Park Tudor for the State Title too.

We played a second game for 3rd or 4th place, but with the rain from last night it meant we had to play it back to back with the Culver loss. And considering it was against Zionsville, the team which was unbeaten in Indiana until we played them last week, there was no way they were going easy on us! The Final Four is not for the faint hearted!! Zionsville took their revenge upon us.

But for a team that was not ever expected to be there, we held our heads high. It was a great honor. Three of our players were elected to second team All State, Stephanie Tirman, Alyssa Jarvis, and Bobbi Mills. And all three of them were elected to the Tournament Team as well, meaning that they were among the best of the Final Four. It was quite an honor for a team just beginning to make our mark.

Six seniors played their last game with us today, and they will be sorely missed….including our goalie. But we have a strong team coming up, and we just may be there again next year.

As for me, it has been such a privilege to coach such a fine group of girls. We are adding three Assistant Coaches for the next season, so watch out Indiana. We are not done wit you yet!

Fourth in Indiana…..not bad!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless. I need some sleep for sure!!

Tom+

Yes, we went to the Final Four, but our game was postponed due to lightening finally at a little after 10 pm. We had played 5 minutes and the score was 1-1. Tomorrow at 12:30 we start it over again……0-0.

Needless to say I am wiped out! It is midnight and I am typing in bed. Say a prayer for me, because all this makes things seem chaotic to me and that leads to fogginess. And I really NEED clarity tomorrow for the games. Sadly, we will not have the advantage of playing just once tomorrow, like we should have. And that is going to make it harder for the girls. But if it has to happen that way, I cannot think of a better group of girls to have playing.

Okay, enough for me. More storms are coming and I need to rest.

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tom+

At practice today we worked on a few things, but as we head into the Final Four, there is not much you can do to adjust. At this point you go with what got you here, and to be honest, all that stuff is pretty darn good.

After practice Scotty, Ben and I went to the playoffs for our boy’s team, and though we lost, it was encouraging to see about half of our women’s team in the stands. Character is important in sports, and we have a lot of it on the women’s team that’s for sure. I am certain the boy’s appreciated the support too.

Tomorrow everything comes together and in the end we hope to be victorious! Keep us in your prayers! It is a big time for them. It is a big time for the town as well!

Goodnight my friends and God Bless.

Tom+